"Whole Person Catalogue"


  1. Never be negatively challenged.
  2. Take your time. Ask for time.
  3. Stop. Look. Listen. Breathe. Begin again.
  4. Always keep yourself physically Alive.
  5. Know what you need and want.  Ask for it. Because if you don't know, who does? Remember: It’s your audition/meeting/interview/opportunity. If you don't speak up, you can't lay the blame on another person.
  6. Never forget: It is within your power. You are the one that makes yourself powerless. Not somebody else.
  7. Be clear. That’s confidence. Know what you know, and what you don't know. That's confidence. Have a sense of humor. That’s definitely confidence. As I say in my workshops, "I'm never more serious than when I'm funny."
  8. Have a story to tell.  Have something personal to say. It relaxes you (and the other person). Makes you feel more secure.
  9. Use metaphors (eg. "Killing with kindness") to illustrate and enliven. It adds dimension, arouses curiosity, connection. It's a way of solidifying your identity. People aren't going to forget you. 
  10. Never, ever pretend. It creates stress, confusion, tension, anxiety. It creates a false impression of who you are. Bottom line: It’s dishonest.
  11. Be who you are, where you are. Always ask yourself: Where am I in this? and Where is this in me?
  12. Never take anything personally. Even when it is. However:
  13. Never allow anyone to insult, ridicule, demean or be anything less than respectful. Expect respect. And return the compliment.
  14. You can say anything, so long as you say it the right way: "common civility".
  15. Go on a Diet: Give up comparisons. We can evaluate, admire, learn from another person. Without feeling less then. Comparisons are never constructive.
  16. Don’t seek to ingratiate yourself ("people-pleasing"). It never works anyway!
  17. Always say:  Is there anyting else you’d like to see? (auditions), or Is there anything else I can tell you? (interviews).
  18. Just because someone asks you a question doesn’t mean you have to answer it.
  19. Never apologize... unless you’ve been a jerk!

riff "Being prepared means never having to say you're sorry." Wink