"Whole Person Catalogue"
- Never be negatively challenged.
- Take your time. Ask for time.
- Stop. Look. Listen.
Breathe. Begin again.
- Always keep yourself physically Alive.
- Know what you need and want.
Ask for it. Because if you don't know, who does? Remember: It’s your audition/meeting/interview/opportunity. If you don't speak up, you can't lay the blame on another person.
forget: It is within your power. You are the one that makes yourself powerless. Not somebody else.
- Be clear.
That’s confidence. Know what you know, and what you don't know. That's confidence. Have a sense of humor. That’s
definitely confidence. As I say in my workshops, "I'm never more serious than when I'm funny."
a story to tell. Have something personal to say. It relaxes you (and the other person). Makes you feel more secure.
- Use metaphors (eg. "Killing with kindness") to illustrate and enliven. It adds dimension, arouses curiosity, connection. It's
a way of solidifying your identity. People aren't going to forget you.
- Never, ever pretend. It creates stress, confusion, tension, anxiety. It creates a false impression of who
you are. Bottom line: It’s dishonest.
- Be who you are, where you are. Always ask yourself: Where am
I in this? and Where is this in me?
- Never take anything personally. Even when it is. However:
- Never allow anyone to insult, ridicule, demean or be anything less than respectful. Expect respect. And return the compliment.
- You can say anything, so long as you
say it the right way: "common civility".
- Go on a Diet: Give up comparisons. We
can evaluate, admire, learn from another person. Without feeling less then. Comparisons are never constructive.
seek to ingratiate yourself ("people-pleasing"). It never works anyway!
- Always say: Is there
anyting else you’d like to see? (auditions), or Is there anything else I can tell you? (interviews).
- Just because someone asks you a question doesn’t mean you have to answer it.
- Never apologize...
unless you’ve been a jerk!
"Being prepared means never having to say you're sorry."